I wonder if we miss the most important one? Perhaps in focussing on Apostles, prophets, pastor/teachers & evangelists we've missed the general instruction to live in peace and unity?
It is easy to imagine that speaking the the truth in love is using teaching as a way to correct others, judging their behaviour... (and deflecting gaze from our own!) but perhaps being humble, gentle, patient, longsuffering and unified in the spirit, and mindful of the full measure of the grace God has given us, using the gifts He has given to us the point is to make each other stronger and mature. We're actually supposed to build each other and ourselves up, learning with and from each other, as we grow up in Christ. If unity and growth is the central point of Eph 4, there doesn't seem to be much room for finger pointing, gossip, judgementalism, holding a grudge and pointing out other people's mistakes..
